Using Music to Boost Self Esteem
When I adopted my niece back in 2010, she seemed scared and quiet isolated from the world because of what she had gone through in an abusive family. Her mother, my sister had died while giving birth to her and her father got remarried when she was two years old. Her step mother proved to be a monster and constantly abused her. All this went without the knowledge of her dad and the world.
While she was about 6 years old, her dad too passed in a grisly road accident. Her step-mum took custody of the child and continued abusing her and neglecting her basic needs. I came to learn about all that 3 weeks after her father passed away and I had paid them a visit. I got angry about the mistreatment and decided to sue her in the court. She was found guilty and the child was put under my custody.
She had suffered a lot of ill treatments that she found it hard relating even with other kids in school. I didn’t know the best approach to boost her self-worth and I considered taking her to a psychologist. I exactly did that, but six months into the program, she still hadn’t fully recovered.
Music Therapy can help heal Old Wounds
One day as I was writing a journal online, I read about a small girl who was reluctant to go to the hospital for an x-ray. She had this phobia of hospitals and what goes on there. Her parents instead decided to page a musician who came and played guitar to her all the way to the hospital. She obeyed to follow him as if she didn’t know where they were heading.
The guitarist played his guitar even in the x-ray room and the girl cooperated until they left home with the results. This made me feel that there was some power in music.
I decided to enroll my niece for music lesson in a nearby music academy. Every evening after school, I would accompany her to the music school where she was taught voice lessons as well as various music accompaniments. She really loved all that I could feel that she was identifying with the music. Her music teacher also felt the same though I never revealed to him my real intentions of enrolling her in my niece for music classes.
I still continued taking her to the psychologist over the weekend, and I became positive when the psychologist told me that she was improving. She too didn’t know that I had enrolled my niece for music lessons.
After about 9 weeks into the music classes, my niece could play various music instruments and her favorites were the piano and the guitar. I decided to buy her a guitar. As if to show off, she would carry it at school and loved singing to other students. This was a clear indication that she was blending in and that her old wounds were healing up.
She was hastily recovering and her energy levels as well as her self esteem were high. I continued supporting her and even helped her produce her gospel song that she always would sing at the church. Today she has completely recovered and loves to identify much with music and bring the best of her world to other through singing and playing various music instruments.